The Joys of blogging.

When I first started blogging back in 2009, I had not a clue as to what I was doing. 9 years later I still am learning. And while my blog doesn’t have a million followers and does not make much $$ I am proud of it. I love saying I am a blogger, although that is a more recent addition. I have always leaned on the side of caution when talking about my blog. On one hand it sounds cool since I get to go to events and meet new people. On the other it seems a bit vain and narcissistic to say, I have this blog where I stand around and take pictures of myself, by myself. Which trust me it takes a lot of gumption to go out in public and set up Samwise(tripod) to the stand in front of it and wait for the timer.

It can get a bit weird.

the joys of blogging

So why do it? Well, when I first started blogging, my priorities were, for lack of better words all fucked up. I was thinking $$$ and also was pushed to come up with something fast. I hadn’t a foggiest on how to blog. I posted about clothes and things I thought people might buy. There was no personal attachment and my blog then was seemingly more spammy. The name was awful, gofashiondeals. What was I thinking? Well, I wasn’t.So, if you want to start a blog pick a good name.

the joys of blogging

Over time I would tinker away with the blog. my writing evolved and then I realized bloggers were more than hey buy this. Even though we really want you to buy what we are wearing, we have bills to pay too. Blogging would soon become an outlet for me. In 2013 I had my son G, and had post partum bad. I was needing an outlet and so in secret I started to pour my heart and my soul in to this blog. Well, the last blog. The blog helped me, so another blog thing, blogging can be therapeutic. Now, granted some blogging has lost it’s way with people trying to out insta each other. But, the core of it is still there, the creative outlook and writing.

the joys of bloggingBlogging sure has it’s perks with brands reaching out, but even that has it’s downside. You might think that sounds crazy but I can assure you it isn’t. And when you tell people you blog sometime you get the “oh you get free stuff??? do you make money?” While getting products are fun and exciting, you as a blogger should know your worth. If a brand( a big multi million dollar brand) says they do not have a budget and want you to write for free even without product, YOU FUCKING SAY NO. Why? Because when bloggers say yes, they can make it harder for the rest of the bloggers who are trying to make this a career. When you say yes, you are being taken advantage of and no matter how many times they tell you they will give you exposure, I can honestly say THEY WILL NOT DO THAT.I am speaking from experience my friends. In fact, you should watch out for plagiarism.

Sorry but I have to be blunt and the swearing. I have seen too many bloggers get shafted for this and as a blogger, I want to look out for my fellow bloggers. WE are a tribe, a community. AND do not feel bad for asking if they are going to pay you along with product, because lipstick wont pay that rent.

the joys of blogging

Blogging is a lot of work. I mean a lot of work. It can take hours to write up one post. That isn’t including proof reading, editing photos, blasting on social media, and reading other blogs to get your name out there. Events to get your name out there are a good way of fun and work. AS an introvert it is challenging for me, but I force myself out of the house. When you want to blog, understand there is a lot to be done. It is harder than it looks, just like being a youtuber is harder than it looks.

SO remember if you want to start a blog, while it has it’s perks it is a lot of hard work!

the joys of bloggingSO, what are my tips for blogging?

pick a good name!

buy a url, that is important because then you own your blog. You can post on Insta all you want but in the end your blog should be your focus. And I think we lost that as bloggers.

take social media seriously and then also remember to step away from it too when need be.

Get on pinterest and get on TAILWIND. ASAP.

reach out to bloggers in your community and make friends!

Keep learning!

MArket yourself!

KNOW YOUR WORTH and be willing to say no!

If it sounds too good to be true it probably is.


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  • Simplement Lui May 10, 2018 at 1:15 PM

    I’m always interested by this kind of post as it’s a good way to learn what other bloggers did 🙂 Now I don’t forget I have mine for fun and not for a business as it seems to be a one person company for many many bloggers.

    I’m also a little surprised not to read in your tip: produce quality content; either pictures, videos or text … quality does pay … maybe not on the short term but it’s for sure a winning strategy! And of course be patient!

    nice dress by the way 😉

    • Stephanie May 12, 2018 at 7:10 AM

      Oh that does play into it for sure. I wanted to touch on the more core aspects of blogging the things that have been irritating other bloggers on twitter. Pictures and content are super important, but those are a full post on their own. This post would have become a novel if I kept going. BEtter to split things up. Don’t worry photo and content are coming. This was just what was on my mind .

  • Laura May 11, 2018 at 12:24 PM

    Great tips! I still need to check out tailwind. I think the biggest misconception is how much time blogging can take! I have so many things I would like to try or learn, but commenting and writing posts takes up most of my time!

    • Stephanie May 12, 2018 at 7:11 AM

      IT is worth it. I think that the massive influx of views made the $25 dollars a month worth it. Granted, I should just buy the year, but I wanted to see if it was worth it.

  • Kelsey May 11, 2018 at 4:07 PM

    Good wisdom, it’s so important to stay grounded in why we blog. If we get stuck in a rut where we are solely motivated by page views and getting paid, it is no longer a fun, creative outlet! I’ve definitely learned to say no to brands that I don’t feel fit with my style or message, or aren’t going to help me out in return.
    Love the dress and your fun carnival shoot, too!

    • Stephanie May 12, 2018 at 7:12 AM

      Thank you, I am always telling new bloggers this stuff. This includes family and friends who want to blog. IT IS A LOT OF WORK. and a lot just stop doing it.

  • gunmetal December 22, 2018 at 2:55 AM

    Beautifully crafted dresses.Really gorgeous.Please keep updating.


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