Last Maternity outfit and body positivity.

maternity outfit. How to wear faux leather when pregnant #fashion #style #ootd #bloggeroutfits #streetstyle #lookoftheday #pregnancyTop : Target non maternity sized up// Leggings Boohoo Maternity //

Cardigan Popjulia co// Shoes popjulia co//necklace Sugarfix similar

In this day and age body positivity is everywhere, it is on Instagram with instagramers talking about celebrating every body and every body type. But, you would think that as a pregnant woman body shamers or talking down to them on how they are dressed may not be something that happens. Guess again friends, Guess again.

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This form of mom shaming/ body shaming is something that hurts just as much as someone calling someone out on their skin color, too dark, too pale, abnormalities, being too overweight, being too skinny, etc. The list goes on and on. With my first born, I was flat out called fat by a family member when I was about 8 months pregnant. It still hurts me and that was almost 5 years ago, especially since I was on bed rest at the time and on meds that can make you swell.  I cried in the bathroom after getting off the phone with this relative, alone.

So what happened this time?

maternity outfit. How to wear faux leather when pregnant #fashion #style #ootd #bloggeroutfits #streetstyle #lookoftheday #pregnancyWell, Bless my little heart, ya’ll it was my clothes. Believe it or not, this outfit here that I wore for my post on Popjulia fashion. (Blog post and review here.) This outfit caused two grown women to act like school yard high school bullies. Even if they didn’t intent on causing that kind of hurt. They still did. Remember the old saying ” It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it.”?  Well, possible good intentions and commentary on my outfit sparked rage in my husband, in me, in my blogger friends, and well yeah. I like to think there is good in many people and misunderstandings in things can happen.

maternity outfit. How to wear faux leather when pregnant #fashion #style #ootd #bloggeroutfits #streetstyle #lookoftheday #pregnancyThe “incident” as I will call it, happened when I needed to drop my son’s nap pad at school. It is a napping blanket attached to a comfy pad for nap time, super cute and has a pillow too, rolls up and is perfect for school. Anyways, I went to drop it off and two women stood near the doorway. I was fine until the very first condescending “bless your little heart.”

If there was a statement I hate hearing in the South it is that one. I hate it. Because most of the time, I hear it used to be condescending to others. Not in a loving way.

” Are you trying to make that baby come early with those shoes?”

I just went, um what? I did not ask for their opinion, I was there to just drop off something. It was initiated by them.

I told these women that my shoes are very comfy and light weight and nothing wrong with it. (My obgyn in the hospital told me she wore heels until the last day of her pregnancy. GO GIRL!) I was justifying my outfit to two perfectly good strangers outside my son’s school. Who the hell these two people were I have no clue, and honestly I do not give a damn. But, I do give a damn, because I am still talking about it. IT bothers me.

The bless your heart comments were free flowing from these two at this point, pointing out my outfit. Like I how I was dressed really mattered in being a pregnant woman. Like I was asking for preterm labor, because I was wearing faux leather, boots, and a cozy cardigan. Seriously ladies, my ass was not hanging out, I was not dressed like a frump no, but I was dressed very nice. In fashion, in my style, and in my opinion bad ass.

Little did these two know that a couple of weeks later(maybe less) I would be in preterm labor, but not because of my shoes, but because of the stomach flu going around my son’s school.

maternity outfit. How to wear faux leather when pregnant #fashion #style #ootd #bloggeroutfits #streetstyle #lookoftheday #pregnancyI pride myself, that I took better care of ME this pregnancy. I was tooting my own horn in the fact that while I gained as much weight with this baby as my first born tiny child, I was healthier and more fit. I have no idea where the excess weight was, It was mostly baby and a little on my thighs I think. I prided myself that I didn’t loose my fashion identity this time. I stuck with what I always wear and changed it up by trimester. I was smarter this time, I knew when I could rock those heels and when I honestly couldn’t. I knew my strengths and weaknesses this time.

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SO to those two ladies, thank you, thank you for making the body positivity movement that more important. Thank you for pointing out why we need this now, thank you for being horrible. I just hope that if they have daughters, that their girls don’t do this to others. It is learned, we must break the cycle. More now than ever.

maternity outfit. How to wear faux leather when pregnant #fashion #style #ootd #bloggeroutfits #streetstyle #lookoftheday #pregnancyMy outfit was simple, I wore faux leather maternity leggings, a basic tee, statement necklace from Sugarfix, and a cardigan, with those shoes. Who would have thought it would be so controversial. It is laughable!

What do you think? How would you have handled it? What would you have said?

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12 comments for “Last Maternity outfit and body positivity.

  1. February 5, 2018 at 9:58 AM

    I think you handled it like a champ babe!! I think its great that you retained your personal style while pregnant. Just bc us women get pregnant doesn’t mean we then have to always wear sweats and be in the kitchen LOL xoxo

    • Stephanie
      February 5, 2018 at 10:18 AM

      Thank you! I couldn’t agree more! IT is a shame that is the stigma pregnancy receives. Women should support women, and not try to bring others down just because they themselves are unhappy.

  2. February 5, 2018 at 10:32 AM

    I’m so sad that those nasty comments were said. They are ridiculous and wrong, and most likely insecure that they don’t feel good in their own skin. You DO look badass! You’re gorgeous and perfect, and you always rock the best outfits.
    –Roxanne
    glassofglam.com

    • Stephanie
      February 5, 2018 at 9:05 PM

      It is sad. and so wrong. I think you are right

  3. February 7, 2018 at 11:45 PM

    You look great! Love the leggings 🙂

    Natasha | PALM + PINE
    palmandpineblog.com

    • Stephanie
      February 8, 2018 at 12:31 AM

      Thank you! They are super comfy!

  4. February 10, 2018 at 2:33 AM

    I think people can be really horrible, and shamming is totally uncalled for. Your look is lovely, and stylish, and they were probably just jealous! Don’t let those type of people get into your head.

    • Stephanie
      February 10, 2018 at 9:49 AM

      They really can be.It amazes me how two grown ass women can turn into juvenile bullies picking on someone they never met before at a school which has ZERO bullying tolerance!

  5. jodie
    February 10, 2018 at 1:05 PM

    That’s pure craziness, Stephanie. We always say people will be people, and I tend to ignore these people or smile and kill them with kindness!!
    You look fabulous!
    XOXO
    Jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

    • Stephanie
      February 11, 2018 at 8:35 AM

      Same, but it just bugs the crap out of me that they were doing it at a school. That is not leading by example.

  6. February 13, 2018 at 8:36 PM

    I’m sorry you had that experience. It says way more about them than it does you. You came out the shining start whereas they are clearing dealing with their own insecurities and feel the need to make others feel small in order to make them feel better. That kind of behaviour will have them losing every time. You look great!
    Thanks for linking up with the Blended Blog!

    • Stephanie
      February 14, 2018 at 4:22 PM

      thank you! i think that they wanted to feel good about themselves too, i just hope that kids don’t learn from that.

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