iiiiiiiittttsss that time of year when the world falls in love and each song you hear seems to say, Merry Christmas. ANd something something, dahhhhh dun dun. And now that song is stuck in your head, Happy Holidays. OK, lets talk stress. Holiday stress, That stress that comes with this time of year. The stress of buying presents for the holiday gatherings. Not just Christmas but also for those who don’t celebrate Christmas, etc. It isn’t just the Christmas rollers that have it, others too. Anyways, today’s blog post is about stress.
It can happen to the best of us, we all have that moment of stress as much as we get that moment of zen.
As much as I love this time of year, I started to loath it when my family wasn’t having that “normal” holiday experience. No, I am not talking about no snow, we live in FL.I gave up on that idea, we all know it would never snow here! But the over stimulation and too much going on. Rushing to point a to point b. And thanks to my son’s OT he has gotten better with it. No, seeing Santa may still be out of the question. And going to one side of the family home is out of the question when there are over 20 people in a tiny room. Too much. We have to be careful what we do. Familiarity is what the little one needs. And that is fine, the family understands.
Anyways, there is so much to think of other than presents. And really he doesn’t ask for anything, and so creating memories are the way to go, He went to Grinchmas and friends he did so WELL!!!!! AHHH! I am proud. Plus we are definitely doing the pj holiday box , only with Star wars themed pj’s . Got to compromise with the hubby. Plus we all know how much of a dork I am.
I forgot lipstick(derp)
So how to handle the holiday stress? What can you do about it? It’s easy, find that happy medium. If you don’t want to split the day up on Christmas day and eve with family A and family B, do Christmas Eve with one and Christmas day at the other. Instead of fretting over the perfect presents, get something small for everyone. Especially if money is tight. That is the thing that baffles me, when money is needed elsewhere, people think they still HAVE to get something for people. NO. STOP. Take a step back and think, if you can not do presents for the 10mil people in your family say so. Say in mass text to family ” I’m sorry family, but due to financial issues I cant get anyone anything.” They will probably not think twice, or maybe already knew. And if you REALLY must do something, then go to the dollar store and make a goodie box. Or if they love that Starbucks or Dunkin get a $5 gc. Done.
The holidays can be so stressful. And really they shouldn’t be. Think about when you were a kid. Go on think. What did you do? Play in the snow? GO DO IT! Get on those gloves, put on the snowshoes, and grab that sled! And have fun!! In the South? There are lots of things that are fun! Go to a local parade, go do what we loved to do and go Christmas light looking. See an outdoor orchestra. It is worth the time outside and relaxation.
Make a hot cup of cocoa and read a bit. Listen to a Christmas station on Pandora and just relax. Slow down bake something like these cranberry and white chocolate cookies. I think in this day and age, we try too much to be in that competition of the best everything we forget what is important. And that isn’t to say that gifts are not awesome and giving isn’t. But, really think about it.
These past couple of years since my lo diagnosis, has really put holidays in perspective. Now I know I have posted wish lists and gift guides, but there is a time when we need to distress. And we put so much stress on ourselves now that it gets overwhelming. Don’t you think?
I am stressed.
I am dressed like it is summer.
Which brings me to this repeat of an outfit. I wore this yesterday, and I know it is on repeat. But I needed something bright and cheery, Plus it was summery again. With all the stuff I have been dealing with I am needing a moment of zen. Just a moment.
just a moment,
A walk in nature uninterrupted, no shoes on.