Getting over self criticism.

Whoa there dude! Today on the old bloggerooo I am talking about the kind of criticism where you are constantly questioning everything you do to the point of mental anquish. It can be as simple as “ugh these pictures are horrible that I just took, shot, or styled.” To am I good mother?  I shouldn’t have let him eat Doritos. I am a horrible friend as I haven’t answered so and so’s call all day. You sit and go back and forth with yourself over everything and it sucks. Self Criticism while good in small doses can be pretty bad when in excess. Which I am completely guilty of. Hands up friends if you are guilty of it! I am raising both hands here.

This is about anything really when it comes to that, but today I really want to touch on blogging self criticism. We are after all our worst critics.

Being in the blogger world or the blogosphere can be so stressful.Deadlines, followers or lack there of, blog traffic, comparing to other “successful” bloggers, dreaming, wishing, and planning. When you don’t get answers to emails for PR, when you don’t get posts that pay or they want you to review their whole site and not pay a thing or give product. Ouch. For me it is stressful, you bet. It is even worse when you are a massive introvert. I will tell you it takes a lot of moxie to get me out of my bubble and once I do start talking I go home and freak out because I am thinking how dumb I sounded or maybe pretentious. Or nerdy. “Did they really want to hear about how I beat Dragon Age Iquisition ?”  Was the eye roll directed at me? Oh my gosh panic at the disco here!

And then we get to the blogging pictures and I go through freaking out about them all. Thinking they are no good and since I want to make this more of a career and not just a hobby or something that keeps me sane I am even more critical. Add sponsor content and I want to be the best for my blog. And I know I am not alone in this. Hands up if you are in the same boat. #introvertsunited

Take in point this picture here

OK, first I got this belt from ZAFUL and have no idea how to style it outside of a YSL advert. I say that because that is where I got the inspo for it.  And since then I am like “how?” SO while trying to shoot my outfit for SKREENED, I was playing around because that is what fashion is isn’t it? It is taking risks and thinking a little outside the box. I took quite a bit, thoughts?

Anyways, I wasn’t happy with how my pictures turned out for the Skreened post that I am working on. Why? IT goes back to that self criticism doesn’t it? Taking self criticism to new heights. And there ya go even after sending examples to people you know will be critical(constructively) you still want to throw all the pictures into MT DOOM. Why? You don’t think they are good enough that you are good enough. You go back to reading those bigger bloggers and think ugh…it never looks like that. Even though when you go back to some posts it does. Who cares if you do not have a photographer following you around, or the fact you may have to use your camera on the phone, which by the way are getting just as good as a DSLR. Wow. Some of the Galaxy phones take amazing pictures. And there are lens kits available now for the phones. FYI.  You do you, you can take them to the next level with photo editing software and filters. As well as natural light. Yup. The pic below, phone photo.

The first photo, I was not happy with either. OH GOSH. Insta loved it. I was like meh. My hair was like Magenta from Rocky Horror and nothing lined up how I wanted. So I resnapped the picture above, and It’s better. The thing about my hair is that I was always told it was too messy by people for ever, and always hearing the saying that people with curly hair are not taken as seriously as those with straight hair, kind of sticks with you when it is sometimes true.

So, how do you get over it. Truth is I HAVE NOT A CLUE. If I did life would be all sunshine, butterflies and Unicorn farts. But, life is not picture perfect, blogging life is not picture perfect. Social media can make it worse especially when dealing with followers going up and down and you can not get past 900 followers, but blogger xyz did and hasn’t been in the blogosphere as long. OUCH. It can definitely take the wind out of the sails and such. So, what do I do? OK, lets be honest. I say I don’t get competitive but I do. I am. I can say I will try not to look at follower count(easier said than done when a lot of brands want you to have lots of social media followers on certain platforms) eesh.  I will say I am getting better at not scrutinizing loss and gain. That is true. I am going to keep plugging away at what I am doing  and reality is that that is all you can do. Blogger friends who are feeling the down in the dumps, know you are not alone. We all go through that, and yes while you didn’t get that paid sponsorship or those products or whatever. Just think maybe it just wasn’t for you, right now. Doesn’t mean that in future you wont get that designer spotlight. You may. Just keep plugging away at it. Just keep going.

Because

can’t stop, wont stop.

DO or DO NOT, there is no TRY. (Yoda)

Do not give up.

Just keep swimming.

And Break the Wheel.

Stephanie <3

 

And I am loving that first image more and so I may just have to do an outfit post with it. …..

4 comments for “Getting over self criticism.

  1. Molly
    February 16, 2017 at 8:21 PM

    Awww…I’m sorry that I can’t help you increase your follower count or take stress away from you. I’d give you a big hug if I could and tell you that you are truly unique and I LOVE following all your fashion adventures. There is nothing generic about your blog. It is genuine because it is all Stephanie and that’s what makes it special and wonderful. Keep your head up, buttercup! You’re doing it all the way it should be done. 🙂

    • Stephanie
      February 17, 2017 at 7:54 AM

      Thank you molly!!! 😀 I’m all right, I wrote this post to let other bloggers who may feel the same way that they are not alone. Or even if they don’t blog that they are not alone. We all have those days. Thank you for all your support. 🙂

  2. February 17, 2017 at 1:00 AM

    Those pics are amazing
    http://carrieslifestyle.com

    • Stephanie
      February 17, 2017 at 10:53 AM

      Thank you carrie!

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